ON LOYALTY

The question of emotional loyalty came up for me today, as something negative I had to deal with. Now here I’m talking about a feeling state rather than a thinking state.

The curious thing is, I never really viewed loyalty as a negative. My thinking state always viewed loyalty as something noble, something to prize and something to be proud of. Therefore, I was intrigued to explore this.

As an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) master practitioner, I’m aware it’s always important to continuously clear your own negative feelings -  preferably with a coach - but having used EFT for over 15 years now, I’ve begun to notice almost seamlessly what needs to be cleared when it comes up.

When I uncovered the feelings behind the word loyalty for myself (and I will tell you that everyone has their own feeling definition), it brought up limiting beliefs of having to stay in the same environment, having to stay in the same paradigm, of being hemmed in, of staying stuck, there were also elements of a lack of freedom to the detriment of joy too.

Once these negative feelings then started coming up and I cleared them, feelings of guilt that I should feel this way came to the fore. I was happy to clear these too, and then that wonderful feeling of calm descended upon me.

Not being content with just being calm and having cleared all the negative feelings associated with loyalty, I then moved to raise my energy with gratitude for all the friends I have, all the wonderful regular, steadfast comforts that are around me because of a regular practice to nurture them (a positive form of loyalty) and then gradually, something shifted and a wash of good feelings flooded over me. I get this happy giggly feeling in the pit of my stomach when I’m really happy. I was there at +10.

This as this is the way we work in EFT to clear any negative feelings to give rise to positive feelings and create great shifts in our lives. By clearing the negatives we collapse the perceived problems which gives rise to calm and higher energy states.

And look out for those wolves in sheep’s clothing! The negatives are not always so apparent, and are often shrouded in noble definitions!

If this post resonates with you, I invite you to take part in my 3-week group program which starts this Thursday 20th April on Zoom. Once you’ve booked you will receive full details of the program. In three weekly sessions we will work on 1. Decluttering the mind 2. Stopping self-sabotage and 3. Clearing limiting beliefs.

This is a great opportunity to experience my energy and coaching work to release blocks and open up a life that you never thought would be possible! Please join me at https://www.eftsolution.com/groupcoaching/ . I look forward to working with you on the call!

p.s. I’ll be raising my prices in May so now’s the time to get in and start working with me!

HUSTLE AND REST

To take you back to when I originally started working on my journey with EFT I had a coach who was always trying to take me from thinking with my head to the feeling state (thinking with my heart) in our sessions. This annoyed me a bit because I was so used to ‘living in my story’ and thought that my story was what was needed to be communicated to resolve what I needed to resolve.

Now I'm aware that then I had this ‘unconscious incompetence’ of getting into my feeling state. But why is this important you might ask? In case you don’t already know, the feeling state is where the magic happens.

Onwards to 2017 and I’m so much better at connecting, speaking, communicating, feeling with my heart – and with that comes gratitude as life is so much sweeter now.

So onto my story about hustle. I’m a big coffee fan. Here in the UK we have Costa coffee – for me that’s tons better than Starbucks (but we’ll leave that heated debate for another time!). Going in to get my favourite brew about 6 months ago I thought to myself how hard the staff there have to work to earn their money. Having just started my online business I was in the position where I knew I’d have to work hard to get traction. So I put my head down and worked and worked and worked, like someone who really had to work hard.

The main thing about having an online business and creating online programs is that results are not always predictable and there’s so much testing, testing and so much more stuff to firehose your mind with to get you up to speed to create a working online business.

So I nearly burnt myself out (again).

Then I remembered my coach’s constancy of asking me to move to my heart during our sessions. I realised that that was the missing for me: again, a practice of moving from my head to my heart – in my case from ‘hustle’ to REST. It’s simply another ‘unconscious incompetence’ that I need to move to a place of ‘conscious competence’.

I just wanted you to all to know this because this is yet another example of the practices that I now use with clients in my sessions. Working with my heart has had an exponential impact in my life. I want it to be the same for you, so you can thrive too and love your life.

WHAT IF?

Today's post is about mindset - where you are and where you would like to be.

Over the past few months I've been creating an online course called the Business Deep Dive Course which, with 89 students, has been a fantastic experience for me. Even with all my long list of coaching and business qualifications it has also been a challenge some days.

To stay motivated every day, to give more, to expand more has been my journey throughout the past weeks and months, which has led to personal breakthroughs especially in regard to confidence levels.

One of the most important questions I've asked myself every day is 'what if'. You might have noticed our emotional states are different every day and different feelings can come up when we ask the same questions.

In a truly positive state of mind we become creative and our highest self starts to emerge. The 'what if' question seems, for me, to activate that state of creativity.

Today I'm going to ask you the same questions:

'What if there were no limits, what would you do?'

'What if love was totally unconditional, how would you feel?'

'Where would you like to be, if not right where you are right now? 
What if this were possible?'

'What if you could have anything you wanted, what would it be?'

In a daily mindset practice you can ask yourself these questions daily. The feelings that emerge from these questions take us to the next step on our journey.

Let me know in the comments below your own insights, your answers to these 'what if' questions.

Happy Monday!

Bonnie

What is Autogenic Reality?

What is Autogenic Reality?

As an EFT master practitioner I deal a lot with what's known in psychology as autogenic (self-created) reality.

I help people to dive into their traumas, collapse them and heal them by taking them safely through snippets of childhood experiences. It's a very fast healing process.

Autogenic reality for the future has to do with goal setting, and raising a persons energy levels so they step into their 'best self'. Send me an email at info@eftsolution.com if you would like to know more!